Escape to Life – The Authors' Journey

In my last Blog post I was talking about pain and how there is no escaping it, the only way out is to work one’s way through it.

What about the disappointment that comes with that pain? Because the sort of pain I was writing about comes seldom without disappointment and sometimes, it is the direct response to that disappointment in the first place.

I think that disappointment is hard to overcome. It comes along as the result of unfulfilled expectations or promises.

I remember a friend of mine once telling me that one of the most disappointing things in life is a mango which is not ripe. It looks perfect from the outside, promising this soft, tender, sweet and delicious inside but when cut open it reveals a hard center and leaves a bitter taste in the mouth which really disappoints.

Much like that unripe mango, some situations in life seem from the outside to be perfect, but when we “dig our teeth” deep into them, they fully dissapoint. Not just that but they cause confusion, hurting us and even the temporary loss of oneself.

When one person is fully committed and giving their 100% only to find out that it was all an “unripe mango”, the outcome can be devastating.

Some recover quickly and move on with their lives, others need months and at times even years to deal with the disappointment and heal from the hurt and the pain they get left alone to deal with.

Alone… Yes. Because many can say how sorry they are for the circumstances or situation one is living through, but nobody can truly feel what the other person is feeling.

The days might be full and busy, but it is in the long, dark and silent hours of the night when one truly feels the overwhelming reality of the consequences from the events that led to the present situation.

Some spend endless sleepless hours trying to imagine various scenarios for a different outcome, but at the end fall asleep knowing that there was nothing they can do to change what happened because it didn’t depend on them or their actions alone.

People simply make decisions for themselves, that affect the lives of others around them, without even a thought to the effect it will have on them or the impact on another person’s life.

So the question is, what can I do about it? And from that question come a whole load of other questions, can I change the past? NO! Can I change the future and myself? YES!

So then, stand up, make a plan A, a plan B and a plan C even and rise again, like the Phoenix!!!

The best way that I have found to move forward is to get a notebook or even better a big sheet of paper, or stick together several A4s, then get a whole load of magazines, search through the magazines for pictures that depict the life that I want to have, cut them up and stick them to the paper creating an image of that which becomes my goal.

Why don’t you try it? Put that “mango” down and grab the scissors, arm yourself with a stick of glue and get on with “picturing” your new life. Don’t get tempted to pick up that “mango” again, just keep cutting and sticking until you feel hope and are happy with what you see. When it is ready stick it to your bedroom wall, so you can see it every night before you fall asleep and every morning before you get up.

But above all trust God to show you the strength inside yourself and if you don’t believe in God, trust the forces of nature and the Universe to help you reach that new life that you will be able to create.

As for me, I trust and believe in God and His power to help me and guide me in this new beginning.

Send me a photo of your creation and I promise to publish here the most inspiring ones. The one that depicts the greatest positive challenge will receive a signed copy of my book.

Looking forward to seeing you change your lives as I change mine. Go on, I dare you, be a Phoenix!

Have a successful and powerful week! Happy first day of the rest of your life¹ Everyone!

Lots of love to you all,

Beatriz

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